That doesn’t mean there aren’t things you want to change and improve.
It doesn’t mean you are stuck with certain aspects of your life.
And it's not selfish. As a matter of fact, it's biblical! (see below)
Sometimes we berate ourselves and compare ourselves to others. And you know what? There will always be someone better than you in one area or another of life.
But it’s just as likely that there is some area where you are KILLING IT – and that they are a little envious of you too.
The only one you should be comparing yourself to is YOU. And even then, you’ve got to be careful.
45 year old you is probably not going to look the same as 22 year old you.
If you’ve been through a struggle or trauma or big life event (even if it was something ultimately good) whether physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, or combined, you’ve got to cut yourself some slack!
One of my favorite ways to do this when I hear that mean voice in my head is to take a moment, take a deep breath, and think of a close friend….
If my close friend was in my exact situation, what would I say to her? Would I talk to her the way I am talking to myself? If the answer is no, I rewrite my narrative.