I recently had an opportunity to spend time with some incredible women. Our lives and experiences are not identical, but they do share common threads. We have:
Because here’s the thing. Life is tough. We screw up. There are always people better than us at certain things, and there will always be people that want to make us feel “less than”. Don’t let yourself be one of those people.
Maybe you feel you can’t – what if it’s family? Or your coworkers? You deserve to be treated well. If you feel you can’t distance yourself from certain people in your life, make sure you are adding in positive, encouraging ones to help drown out the negativity.
It can be scary to try to make friends as an adult. It seems like at a certain age, everyone else has friends, either from high school or college or parent circles or work or church. Everyone seems to have all they need. But as I’ve talked with women socially and professionally, I’ve discovered that isn’t true for most of us.
When you find “your people” a part of you will come alive, maybe for the first time. Or maybe you’ve had deep connections but they’ve changed for some reason. Don’t give up. Reach out. Take chances. Start small.
My original goal was to have a couple of friends that I could randomly ask to go to the movies or out to eat with me and not feel like a total weirdo when asking. And now I have that. I also have some people that I could call in the middle of the night, that I know without a doubt would be there for me. If you’ve got people in your life like that, you’re incredibly blessed. Take a moment to be thankful for them. And if you don’t? Please don’t give up on finding them.
In case you don’t know me well, I AM NOT a Bible scholar. By any stretch of the imagination. But here’s what I know, not just in my head, but really getting into my heart. God loves me. In spite of all of my screw-ups. Regardless of my failures, even the ones that happen again and again. And there is NOTHING (seriously, not a thing) that I can do that will change that. And it’s not just me – He feels the same about YOU. Unconditional love. Not just that I can reach out in the middle of the night, but He sent Jesus to die for me. I’ve always known that, but then again, not deeply. Not just that Jesus died for everyone, but he died for ME. And even if I was the only one, he would have done it. Even if YOU were the only one, he would have done it. I pray you’ll read these, maybe even daily and out loud, and let them sink in.
Challenge - reach out to someone this week, someone you would love to connect with for the first time or on a deeper level. This may be a huge step outside your comfort zone, but it could also be one of the best things you've ever done. I'd love for you to share your experience, and if you found it helpful, please share this post using the buttons on this page.
Love and blessings,