3 tips to make the most of your time in a funk

Becoming YOUR Best with Jenny Lytle, RN
3 tips to make the most of your time in a funk
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3 tips to make the most of your time in a funk

A couple of days ago I was visited, again, by The Funk.  

You likely know what I’m talking about: life is going along fine, often pretty well, and BAM! The Funk hits.  It’s that feeling of lethargy, apathy, and hopelessness that usually hits suddenly, and thankfully, leaves rather quickly too.  

For me, it usually doesn’t last more than a couple of days, and it’s often even less.  As someone who has experienced depression in the past, the symptoms seem similar to me at first, but depression is more insidious.  It sneaks up on you, it stays longer, and it requires treatment. 

But The Funk? There is no sneakiness here.  He comes in hard, slams the door open, stomps through with muddy boots, and flops down so heavily on the couch that dust from five years ago billows up.  And there he stays until he’s good and ready to leave. 

Here’s how this visit started: 

Friday at approximately 2:40 pm he started on his way to see me.  I was on a call with a business coach and she asked if she could be open with me about my website.  Of course, I said yes, as I’m looking for feedback so I can make changes that will help my business in the long run. 

But what I forgot is how personal my website is to me, and what it represents.  That’s how things go sometimes: we think it’s just one thing, but really there are so many layers to it! 

Anyway, I’ve always been pretty good at things when I set my mind to it and when I really put in the effort.  And my website, while imperfect, was a lot of work and thought and in a lot of ways feels very much like me. And she gave me a lot of suggestions that were good ones, but still, it felt more personal than it was.  

The funny thing about it is I know that there are things that I wanted to change and planned to change, and yet when someone else pointed it out, I felt embarrassed.  She wasn’t rude or condescending in any way.  It was all me and the fear of not measuring up, not being good enough. 

1.  Give it some time - just sit with The Funk for a bit

The rest of that day I kind of ruminated on some of what she had said and didn’t really do anything else productive.  I knew The Funk had come and I just sat with him for a while.  We watched TV and ate a little more than we had planned, and then we went to bed early. 

I got up the next morning and he slept in for a while.  I did my morning pages (writing that I do most every morning to help me clear my head) and was able to sort things out a bit.

2. Think about things more objectively 

I love the colors on my website, but I see how they are a bit dark. So I can go with a lighter background and colored boxes to make it all brighter and cleaner. 

I know there are things functionally that can make it better, and I’ve got some plans for those. The whole goal is to get the right people to my website and get them the information they need from me.  I help stressed-out women going through a transition prioritize their own needs to find peace and take control of their lives. And I want to help as many as possible, so I need to reach them effectively. 

I know I can’t be a master at everything, but I at least want to be someone who does everything well.  But how realistic is that? Does that person even exist? Probably not. We all have strengths and weaknesses. I know that in my head, but still…in my heart, and my ego, I felt sad and disappointed in myself. I felt like I’d failed somehow.  

3. Challenge the negative thoughts 

But then it was time to start challenging that with a few specific-to-the-situation questions and statements…

Is my website a failure?

No. It’s out there and houses a lot of good content. I’ve gained followers and clients through that website, and while it’s imperfect, it’s worked well for me.

I did it myself.

I worked through colors and images that mean something to me and I stand behind them to a certain degree - but I’m open to tweaks.

Even if it was awful, and it’s not, it’s not a direct reflection of me

If my website or post or book or podcast sucks, that doesn’t mean I do. 

I gave permission, to be honest, and to help me. 

I gave the impression that I was open to constructive criticism, and I was.  Until it came.

It’s better to know what to change while I’m already in the midst of changing and improving things.  So now what do I want to do with this info?

  • Update my colors and pics to reflect a lighter, cleaner feel, while still staying true to my colors
  • Update what I’m doing using the template that I have
  • Reach out to another group member if needed
  • Update my verbiage to be more specific regarding who I can best help - women in transition.  Everyone that I have worked with in the past has been in the midst of some sort of transition:
    • Student to career
    • Single to dating
    • Single to married
    • Married to children
    • One child to two
    • Losing someone close
    • Caregiving to losing someone close
    • Married to divorced
    • Divorced to married again
    • Children at home to empty-nester
    • Children at home to grown children at home
    • Working to retired
    • Moving
    • Entering or re-entering the workforce
    • Career change

Here are my biggest takeaways from my recent visit from The Funk:

He will come again.  Often when I am working hard and things are really flowing, he comes along and slams on the brakes. I am starting to think of him as a cousin to Resistance, which Steven Pressfield writes about in depth. Pressfield says, “Resistance (self-sabotage, procrastination, fear, arrogance, self-doubt) is inside you. No one inflicts it on you from outside.”

When The Funk comes, I try to let go of the frustration of being sidelined for a bit. He throws me off of my rhythm, but then I’m able to make sure that I’m singing a tune that I really enjoy and not just one that is stuck in my head. I didn't want to entertain an unexpected guest, but I find that when I pause, I can often learn a thing or two from him.  

 

Until next time, take a deep breath or two and never stop becoming the best version of YOU.


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