New Year, New You
Jan 06, 2020
Dreams for the New Year
What do you dream about? If nothing comes to mind immediately please, please stop and take a few minutes to think about that. Dreams give us purpose and they can move us forward when we are tired, when we just don’t feel it.
For the past year or so I have been working part-time on building my coaching business, working around my regular nursing jobs, my anti-aging/health and wellness business, and some newer crafty endeavors. Here is a recap of some things that I have discovered throughout my own journey:
· people crave connection
· fear holds a lot of us back
· prioritizing ourselves is rare
· small changes can make a huge impact
Let’s dig into these a little more.
We are “connected” 24/7 via technology, but many people that I talk to report feeling like their real support system is small or nonexistent. I personally love technology in general and social media in particular, but I think it has its place. I believe that true connections can happen via tech, but I also think that nothing compares to face to face, knee to knee chats. The energy that is felt when you are in the room with like-minded people is incomparable. Unfortunately with our ever-busier lives, this can be hard to fit in on a regular basis, especially during some of the busiest seasons of life. Enter social media and other forms of technology. Connecting with family and friends that live far away (or just have a hectic life too), meeting new people who share your same issues or passions, learning new things, making money. So many positive things can be accomplished! How can you incorporate the best of both worlds into your life?
Thinking back to when I was young, I loved to write (songs, poems, journals) and to sing. Singing is still something I love to do, and praise and worship is a huge way for me to connect with God. For a multitude of reasons that I won’t go into now, these are all things that for the most part fell by the wayside. I never really wanted to be wrong as far back as I can remember. I was “smart” and I did not want to do anything to jeopardize that title. For some of you, it may be the opposite. Maybe you were told you couldn’t do anything right, and that causes its own issues. As adults, we want to have it all together. We don’t want to look foolish or make mistakes. But what is fear holding us back from doing? I turn to Philippians 4:6-7 often when I am struggling with my own self-doubts:
"6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
For the hundredth time (yes, I’m repeating this for myself too), self-care isn’t selfish! If we don’t take care of ourselves we can’t take care of others either. Take time to figure out what you need, and then make it happen. Maybe you really want a week on the beach by yourself (me too!) and that is not feasible right now. Could you take a day trip to someplace that will suffice? Or even just an hour or two at a local park? I stopped by one on my way home from church yesterday and just a few minutes helped. The difference it makes in how you feel and in your productivity will make it worth the effort to make it happen! Click here for more ideas.
I resolve to....
What would a New Year be without New Year’s resolutions? All of the big changes that we want to make, firmly deciding that enough is enough, this is REALLY the year to lose weight, pay off all of our debt, quit smoking/drinking/ gambling, fill in the blank. And by now a lot of people have already “failed”. So what are the options? Beat ourselves up over messing up yet again? Give up altogether, blaming it on our genes, environment, circumstances, upbringing, spouse, etc.? But maybe we could try just accepting that things did not get out of control overnight and they probably won’t completely turn around in a week. We could find small tweaks that could, over time, have a lasting impact. Instead of resolutions, which seem to leave no wiggle room and lead me to believe that if I stumble I have fallen, I have set goals for myself for the year. They are big, but they are also attainable with consistent effort. I have also elected to choose a word for the year, a word that is an overarching reminder of what I need in order to achieve success in every area of my life. My word this year is FOCUS. I plan to do a lot of big things, starting now, and that is going to take effort and focus.
Let's do this!
It’s a brand new year, full of so many possibilities! I would love for you to come along with me – let’s grow together! Which of these issues to you struggle with? Is there something else that is a big issue for you? Please share! (And don't forget to subscribe so you don't miss out!)