What matters most to you?

Are you focusing on what matters most? 

We all want to spend our time on the important things, but we don’t always take the time to figure out exactly what that means to us personally. 

 

What are the most important things to YOU? 

My top priorities may look very different than yours, and that’s ok.  There are no right or wrong answers here - it’s very individualized.  

 

What we have in common, however, is that if we don’t take time to determine what matters, we will most likely spend a whole lot of time on the things that don’t. 

 

As a woman in midlife, I am realizing just how precious time is.  Even the little moments.  I’m questioning, in an empowering way, the choices that I used to make without a second thought. 

 

I’ve often heard that time goes faster as you get older, and I’m starting to experience that myself.  While I’d love to be able to slow...

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I took a big risk and I’m so glad I did!

Risks and choices keep life exciting!

Today I am six months postop from my shoulder surgery. I have been cleared by my surgeon.  I am free!

But this is about so much more than my arm.

 

A lot has changed in the past six months.

I went from going to therapy for almost a year prior to surgery to deciding to have surgery during a pandemic for a variety of reasons.

First of all, we were not sure what would happen to my husband‘s job, and our insurance is through him.

Secondly, we were spending money on therapy to maintain my range of motion and function, so our deductible was met or close to met already. Due to the long-term therapy, my pain was well managed, and really so was my use of my arm, which happened to be my dominant arm.

But the bottom line was, It was not going to get any better without surgical intervention. As a matter of fact, it would continue to get worse, and could potentially have become suddenly much worse, leaving me in pain all the time.

Last but...

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The best Christmas gift for you!

acceptance growth self-care Dec 22, 2020

Give yourself a gift this Christmas.  Love yourself.  Accept yourself.  Flaws and all. 

That doesn’t mean there aren’t things you want to change and improve.

 

It doesn’t mean you are stuck with certain aspects of your life. 

 

And it's not selfish.  As a matter of fact, it's biblical! (see below)

 

You can love yourself, accept yourself, AND believe you deserve more. 

 

Notice the difference - it's not about not being enough as you are.  It's about deserving to be the BEST version of YOU that you can be! 

Sometimes we berate ourselves and compare ourselves to others.  And you know what? There will always be someone better than you in one area or another of life. 

 

But it’s just as likely that there is some area where you are KILLING IT – and that they are a little envious of you too.

 

The only one you should be comparing yourself to is YOU. And even then,...

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Sometimes you need to be self-centered

 

When we are surrounded by chaos and uncertainty, it can feel selfish to focus on ourselves, but I believe that’s exactly where we need to start.

 
I had a question posed to me - if I had a magic wand and could change anything, what would it be? I said that I would be able to focus and prioritize quickly and consistently. And compared to some of the other women’s answers, which were more focused on global or seemingly magical things, my response could have felt self-centered or too small.
 

But even after further reflection, I wouldn't change my answer. Here's why.

 
I believe that I have a mission and a purpose for being here on this earth and to live out that purpose I need to be very focused and intentional, which does not come easily for me.  But one of the women present during this conversation in our Healing Circle yesterday labeled what I was describing as "causing a ripple in your own pond". Even the smallest stone will cause ripples...
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Daniel Plan resources

Uncategorized Nov 04, 2020

This is a post for those of us doing this program together. Anyone else is welcome to view and use the info, but that's why it seems a bit out of place!

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Friends and vulnerability

Lack of connection, insecurity, loneliness .... it's real. Women need women, but sometimes we're not nice. But it can get better. 

I recently had an opportunity to spend time with some incredible women.  Our lives and experiences are not identical, but they do share common threads.  We have:

  • made mistakes
  • loved big
  • been hurt
  • lost important people
  • been lonely
  • felt insecure
  • had great achievements
  • struggled with weight issues
  • battled mental and physical illnesses
  • been vulnerable
  • loved God and (most of the time now) let ourselves be loved by Him

Those last two? I believe they are the big ones.  The ones that really matter, now and for eternity. 

Because here’s the thing.  Life is tough. We screw up. There are always people better than us at certain things, and there will always be people that want to make us feel “less than”.  Don’t let yourself be one of those people. 

And if the people you are around most often make...

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34 ways to love yourself

What sparks joy for you or makes you feel loved?

When is the last time you did something really nice for yourself? How often do you take time to relax and indulge yourself a bit? 

Self-care isn't selfish. 

Now before you start thinking that you don’t have the time or the money for this, hear me out.  It does not have to be something big and elaborate. Chances are, you have a lot of the tools you need right there at home. And what if you want to kick it up a notch and buy something new for yourself? Great!

But first, take a few minutes to figure out what is it that really sparks joy for YOU. What makes you feel loved, supported, and pampered?
  1. Are there certain:
    • colors
    • scents
    • sounds that either make you feel relaxed or make you happy?
  2. What about certain fabrics? Is it the cool feel of silk? Or something more warm and cozy?
  3. Fuzzy socks
  4. Candlelight
  5. A good book
  6. A favorite movie
  7. Yoga or some leisurely stretching
  8. Fresh flowers 
  9. Rich...
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And then I realized I’m going to fail

Uncategorized Aug 31, 2020
I had surgery six days ago on my left (dominant) arm. I am in a sling and immobilizer for six weeks.
  • I am not a very patient person.
  • I’m not good at sitting and doing nothing.
  • I’m not good at asking others for help.

And I knew all of these things going into it, so I thought that I was prepared. I wasn’t.

 
Today I sat down at my computer to get online and participate in a Zoom. Normally I do not have any issues with this, but it wouldn’t connect and was moving very slowly and then, finally, I got an ‘invalid ID’ error. And I was clicking a link that had been emailed to me! So it wasn’t like I was typing it wrong.
 
And I was frustrated with myself because I had waited until the last minute to try to sign on so when I had problems, there was no buffer. But then it got even worse. 
 
I tried to reply to the email to say that I was having trouble. And I was poking the keys with my right hand I kept making mistakes and by...
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Consistent workouts are changing my life!

Consistent workouts are changing my life!

I have always been an intermittent exerciser.  I will do ok for a few days, then life gets in the way and I’ll walk once or twice every couple of weeks.  I was cruising along like that until a month ago today when I decided to really commit to becoming more active.  Since then I have had at least 30 minutes of intentional activity per day, and at least 10,000 steps daily.  I’ve had quite a few people ask me how I stay motivated, so I’ll share some of what has worked for me. 

One of the ways that I have found to stay active when that was not always my norm is to start off my morning that way. I wake up, use the bathroom brush my teeth, put my contacts in, and get started on my Bible in a year app and usually 2 other devotionals that I am doing.  Then depending on if it's my hospice week or not I may need to start a little bit later (I work every other week on-call 5p-830a, so I can’t get...

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YOU are the best!

Uncategorized May 18, 2020

Start loving yourself, your authentic self

Do you look in the mirror and focus on your flaws and imperfections?

What about who you are deep down inside? What’s that voice in your head saying when you start to dream, when you start to think, “what if I tried….”?

What makes you unique? Are you trying to change it or playing it up?

There is only one amazing YOU!

What if you decided to love yourself no matter what? To continue to improve the things that matter the most to you, but accept yourself for who you are throughout the journey? To see yourself with eyes of grace and love, the way you might see a small child who is trying so hard but struggling….you wouldn’t berate the child, telling her to give up or that she isn’t worth it. You would encourage her, reminding her of the progress she is making, no matter how small or slow.

(And if you have been that small child, and you have been berated in this way, know that I am so sorry. And you...

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